The apathy of a women in our country

The recent case of a MBA girl being raped in the National Capital Territory of India is one of the many cases which takes place not only in our country but around the globe. Its only a few of them that gets highlighted and amongst them also very few gather the courage to go and lodge a FIR because sadly even today in our country a rape is considered a scar on the girl's character. But the larger issue and which is the irony of our society that it is the women only who has face the brunt of the whole thing and the man amongst all these mostly goes Scot free why because its a MAN'S WORLD. Actually to understand this psyche we have to go back in the history. Historically, if u see a women was considered no more than a bearer of child. Man actually was always afraid of women and her capability.Therefore , he always wanted women to be kept under his toes and not allow her to raise her voice . This fear was only because she was the bearer of his off springs. As once my teachers at the law faculty told in Jurisprudence that MAN'S OBJECTIVITY IS WOMEN'S SUBJECTIVITY. Now , i do understand what it meant when i try to analyse it. Man historically if we see kept pestering into a woman's mind that man is the head of the family and a women's duty is to only look after the family. For that , he kept women out of education for a long time and i feel even till today if u look that between a son and a daughter its only the son who from childhood till he dies gets all the benefits from toys to schools, to college for a girl schooling or max a graduation is enough and for a boy engineering, MBA etc. For a girl, marriage is the end of her bonding for the family and for a guy not only he weds, he gets dowry if not in cash these days but in kind and the society openly accepts it also without a fuss. Why is the vice verse not valid. Then after marriage a guy staying with his family is acceptable but for a daughter if she stays with her parents then the society raises eyebrow. Even in the will of the family till sometime ago shockingly , a women had no share in family ancestral property. Then even the last rights of a father under no circumstance's can it be performed by a girl irrespective whether she has a sibling brother, husband , son even a neighbour can do but only if he is a man. What logic god knows. Why because this society says or its the customs and who makes the society or its customs. Isn't it we the people who make this society and its customs. Isn't this society at when point in time used to propagate Sati and in the days of the Raja and Maharaja's women burning along with the pyre of her husband. Which thankfully because of IshwarChandra Vidyasagar and Lord William Benedick was abolished(Correct me if i am wrong). Have we become so conditioned that we just go on doing things in the name of societal norm, have we the educated elite forgotten to question these norms. Even today, why does this society raise an eyebrow when a women smokes or drinks in public and think it manly when the man does the same thing. How does his character become in any manner more or less inferior than that of a women if it all. One logic which i have heard that for a women its bad because its harmful for the child in the womb.But isn't the same applicable to a man too because passive smoking is also as bad as self smoking and not only that smoking is harmful even for the man as he is the head of the family and upon his life the lives of other people in the family is dependent upon, so how can his smoking be legitimate and women smoking be not . Why a women divorcee is looked as a failure in life and why is a widow remarrying still looked down in our society and why is the society sympathetic towards a widower. Still in our society even more in our elite society a girl child is killed or female foeticide is practised. Why does the Indian Society have this fascination for a male child even after the family has or had enough number of girls. I have seen enough in my quarter life that a girl looks after her fathers family much more than what a son does. The saddest part or the irony in our country is that we worship god as Durga , Laxmi etc but somewhere we forget that there is a durga and laxmi in each one of our home whom the society kills everyday. Till very recently a women being rapped was considered as a fault of the women and her being adventurous(As Mrs. Dixit , DElhi Chief Minister once said), a girl of no moral but why didn't this same society question the boy who in my opinion should have been beaten in after he was convicted by the Court in public because so that in future no one dares to do anything like this.People outrages the modesty of a women and we the nation are a spectator to it and have become so thick skinned that nothing disturbs us. The worst part is that the women also have been so very much conditioned by the norms of the society that she never questions all this , even if she does then also mutely.Sad isn't it. We as a society are the greatest hypocrites and no matter how rich we as a nation may become but as a society we are far far behind. Modernity doesn't come from the clothes or gadgets you carry, it comes from the thought which you carry.